Again a thought

In a world filled with strife, with people suffering, many of whom live plentifull lives but still suffer, do we ever take the time to stop and think about us at least for a moment ?

Picture your daily routine, in it is there a point where you stop from what you are doing and think about yourselves ? What you want, want you want to do, what matters to you ?

Ussually we don’t. There are many excuses for why we don’t pay attention to the only person that really matters in our lives, us. Varied reasons like : I don’t have time, who will pay the rent, who will drive the kids to school etc. All of us have them.

But without knowing ourselves can we truly be happy ? Without knowing what makes us tick, or why do we tick in the first place, can we truly be alive ?

Many do not want to think about themselves because they have so many feelings that they do not want to face. Deep inside us, inside the faces and games we put on for the outside world there are thoughts, emotions that we keep well hid, not only from the exterior but from our own selves.

Unfortunately, these are the things that drive us in everyday life. That is why many perceived succesful individuals live in agony and self-destroy themselves. They never stop to think what or why they are doing what they do. They just do it.

Many ask when presented with the option of thinking about themselves and exploring their own inner self, how do they do that ? They believe they need the help of psychologists, psychiatrists, mystics or whatnot.

They don’t need anyone else, you don’t need anyone else to tell you about yourself. All you have to do is make a little time everyday for yourself. 15 – 30 minutes per day. You will still be able to pay the rent, the kids won’t starve, the world will not end if you just stop what you are doing and think why you are doing it. I remember someone saying (I’m sorry I do not remember the name) that people act first, then think, and afterwords MAYBE feel, when it should be the other way around. Unfortunately it is very true. We do not even think about what we are doing let alone see how that would make us feel. We just follow what we have always done because that is what everyone tells us to do or at least that’s how we see it. Well nobody will tell us how to be happy, basicly because they do not know. Even if I know what makes me happy, I can never know what makes YOU happy. Do you know ? Many will ask what is happiness. Do not confuse this with satisfaction, the feeling you get when having a succesful career, which is unfortunately the most widely accepted answer; if you are a succesful bussinessman you are happy. That’s BS. Agreed that one does not exclude the other but that doesn’t meant they are equivalent.

Think about the last time you were truly happy? How long ago was it ? What were you doing ?

Most of you will say it was quite some time ago, and that you were not doing something in particular, probably just admiring a scenery, spending time with a loved one.

Why don’t we strive to achieve those moments ? Why do we get so caught up in doing things that we don’t really need or want ?

Why don’t we just take a moment to enjoy the ride ?

Filed under: Nothing in a nutshell, A moment in time

Death

Throughout our lives we are perpetually tormented by this event we call death.

We live our lives doing our best in ignoring this event which is an integral and final part of any cicle that has a beginning. Mostly we believe that we do not think about it we will not be subjected to it. Well we are wrong. Any thing that has a begining must have an end. We know this. Then why do we continue to pretend and act as if it never happens.

There are few moments when we do think about our own death, and ussually these moments occur when something similar happens in our lives; we see someone passing away, that is the most frequent moment.

I am not wrighting this to sadden you. I am just thinking that maybe if we do take notice of this event and accept it for what it is, maybe just maybe we would not fear it as much. I know this topic has been treated by many authors in many works, and it has indeed been identified by psychologists as one of the basics drives in ourl ive.

We try so hard to get caught up in our daily lives, trying to succeed in what we do, trying to live life at its fullest, as they say, only in a desperate attempt to deny this event. My question to you is, do you or can you live life to the fullest while denying an inherent part of life ?

Can we say on our dying bed that we have truly lived if we are still afraid of our impending death?

My answer is no.

That by no means should say that you should feel the same. It is just my personal opinion. I have seen many people tormented by the passing away of someone loved. Indeed it is a tragic event. But for those that have the power to look past their initial sufferring, or accept this event in advance, ussually perceive that their suffering is not caused by the actual passing away, but by the future lack of contact they will experience with the person that has died. Basicly, we do not cry because someone has died, but because they will no longer experience anything with that person. This is caused by an internal strife in the individual and not because of death. We mourn our own experiences, or lack of thereof, and not that person that has passed away. We mourn OUR own mortality and not that someone else has died.

The fear of the unknown is truly great, there is no denying that. But a life lived to the fullest IS filled with unknown.

Our entire life is nothing more than a preparation for this experience.

Now based on ones personal view and conceptions, two things may happen after death. Either it is the end, as some claim, or it is just a begining for something else. Either way, there I see no reason to fear it as we do. Of course the entire fear can not be fully erased, but maybe by accepting this we would be able to lead a life filled with less fear. Maybe if we stop for a moment and think what it means to die, we would be able to put aside the things we know are meaningless, and we do just to distract us, and focus on what truly matters to us, on what really makes us happy and fulfiled. Then living the life that we truly want, is there any point in fearing any event in our life ?

Filed under: Life and Death, death

A thought

Has it ever ocured to you that the same inherent sistem that keeps you from screwing up is the same sistem that keeps you from aknowledging it exists ?

It is probably clear to you that every person, including yourself has a a built-in sistem that keeps you from messing up. If it is not clear to you let me expand on this. For instance, I am sure that you have at least once experienced a situation in which you just felt that you have to do or not do something in particular to avoid an unpleasent situation. I’m refering to every day to day life, like for instance when you are driving and something inside you tells you that you should slow down because there is the police after the next curve; and you slow down and afterwards go: Good thing I slowed down or i would have gotten a ticket. Like I said day to day activities, or exactly the opposite  when you just know something will go bad and you know what to do in order to avoid but don’t do it and the bad thing happens; then you go : Why did I do that, I know I should have done something else.

Now this type of events are plainly visible in our lives, but we only question that sistem when we mess up, when we do not listen to it and we should have. When we do listen to it we just take it as a normal day. Why don’t we take the bad experience also a day to day. Rather my question is why do we question the very existence of this built in detector that we have, which some call intuition, and do not listen to it? Why don’t we aknowledge it for what it is and try our best to evolve it and use it at its best.

Some call this sistem more than intuition, and claim its divine intervention, especially in more drastic cases, and give thanks to a god or another for their succes, or blame it accordingly. Why do we not accept that there is only us with innate abilities that we can or cannot use according to our will.

The thing is like I said, that only when this sistem is not working that we usually give it any attention at all. When things go the way we want them, it’s great we congratulate ourselves, and overlook this ability, but when the things go awry, suddenly we are not to blame, even if we knew beforehand that what we are doing is wrong. Now do not ask me to define the fact that we know, because we just do, and that is not the point for which I am writing this.

My point is that maybe we should just maybe pay a little more attention to our own selves and take responsibility for the way our life goesbe it good or bad. Then maybe we will just be able to see that little glimmer inside our own selves that allows to evolve in what we truly want to become.

Filed under: Nothing in a nutshell, Thoughts